Dismissive Avoidant Relationship Repeat

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Title	:	Dismissive Avoidant Relationship Repeat
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Amazing how you describe my last big relationship May all people who are caught in the trap see videos like these and find their way out Thank you Thias
Comment from : Compassion and Wisdom

Girl you talk fast Can’t keep up
Comment from : Kati Paulina

Hi Thais, do you offer one on one coach?
Comment from : stephanie zheng

You definitely got the nail on the head with this one My ex hated it when I told her I needed space and would often say she was "worried about me" when I did It's now clear she was projecting HER needs into mebrbrOne point about the conscious vs subconscious mind is I've learned to do what needs to be done regardless of how I feel Because of this, I've been able to accomplish SO much more than I thought I ever would I think this is one of the secrets of changing those subconscious thoughts Great video!
Comment from : Sifu Black

subconsciously avoidants are also looking for people with whom they can be very confident they are safe from abandonment They may learn to get their needs met through non-demanding partners who fail to require real reciprocation, intimacy, conflict resolution and positive reinforcement, pursue indefinitely if they withdraw (the obsessive types who call multiple times a day), and give without being asked Accepting attention without providing emotional security- a classic and often long-standing pairing of the anxious-avoidant relationship
Comment from : S K

My AP Ex, offered and delivered 10 gallons of love and affection, but my DA hands could only accept 5 to 6 gallons I felt shame,because I knew my hands were overflowing and begged her to lower the pressure, but she would get offended and cycle continued until the relationship didn’t…
Comment from : MDF

It’s normal to be wanted and to be desired and to be loved It’s not normal to reciprocate A DA has no ability to love because they have been damaged
Comment from : Walker TRanger

DA's feel and experience love an entirely different way (like a total 180) from most of the population Warmth and all the "traditional" ways humans show affection and care is SO foreign to them It's really heartbreaking to think about
Comment from : Paige

Thais, you have been so, so helpful to me, thank you In this post though, you say something that I find problematic As an AP, I get what you are saying about perhaps not meeting the DA need for alone time But you also refer to the DAs investment in the relationship My experience is that even after 10 years, the DA had not invested much in the way of trust and that she kept pushing the limits of sabotaging the relationship the more I tried to give her what she said she needed Have you seen this or am I somehow imagining this?
Comment from : I Gray

I think DAs are attracted to people who use them But if it’s someone who actually wants to care for them they push them away and it often doesn’t make it to the relationship stage Attracted to what you know…
Comment from : Me An INFP

I've been in a DA relationship He would text about an R rated life And I hope that one day he won't have to forever sting with his internal wounds :(
Comment from : Emma Butterfly

❤🥂🔥🙏🥳
Comment from : Marc Santos

Thank you so much I'm a newly discovered DA and a lot of the issues I've faced in life are beginning to make a lot more sense I've never been able to form a romantic relationship and have basically formed my life around independence and autonomy Now I have to decide how much of this is a manifestation of a coping mechanism and how much is an actual desire to be free
Comment from : Tim OBrien

What are their common needs ? If they are not answering lol
Comment from : Svetik Chum

So what are their needs ? Just to be left alone can you please explain?
Comment from : Svetik Chum

I was one told that the Golden Rule may be "do unto others as you would have them do unto you," but the Platinum Rule is "do unto others as THEY would have you do [unto them]" This is just extra difficult with DAs because, in my experience, DAs don't reciprocate- and whatever you finally do get from them takes so much work on your part that it's not even worth it by the time they start showing up The classic case of "too little, too late"
Comment from : How to Sober

WHY do dismissive avoidants even desire to be with AP’s!!!!
Comment from : Linabella

please make videos louder
Comment from : liveandletlive216

This is so helpful! I am DA, and with the help of your channel, I've been working really hard at meeting my needs for space while being more openly reassuring, affectionate, and forthright when I'm overwhelmed and need independencebrbr However, I often find that my AP tries to "soothe" me in ways that HE would want - leaving me feeling smothered, guilty, and ultimately more triggered towards needing space brbrI try to fight the urge and meet him in the middle, but this video might be the perfect way to explain my stance to him Hopefully it will lead to greater understanding between us As always, thank you for all you and your team do
Comment from : Tabitha B

I loved the point about projexting from perception and being misunderstood!!
Comment from : Sanjana Kumar

yes! & my conscious mind would find it weird or annoying still brbrcoz I was with a secure one who really loved me well and saw me etc, he really taught me so much and I felt so loved Deepest most beautiful positive impact in my life Words can't really express it I'm Forever grateful brbrbut at the time I didn't know how to be in a relationship , so after 4 yrs I ended it Wanted us happier and I saw I needed to work on selfbrbrAnd today, my conscious mind knows I still can find/spot those ones good for me, however, I stll sometimes attract ones like my caregivers that weren't the best for what I neededbrbrll have that part like a child that gets attracted to ones I know are great, but not good for me Yet, I still like to poke at it Like looking at some nice candy I know it's not good… but I just want to go anywaybrbrIt annoys me, I recognize it, the little short dance happens, my conscious mind gets irritated…brbrbut I try to remember , I don't need to hate that… its part of the sub, I can remember to stay compassionate, its a journey and it all reminds me To continue to do self work best I can, even if we sometimes don't feel like we are making progress
Comment from : Dee Bond

My DA ex blocked me after our almost 4 year relationship She did this to have all the space she missed from those 4 years
Comment from : Badminton Generation

Hey thais, can u do a video about what the da thinks when they want to come back? Like do they not realise their pattern?
Comment from : Madlen

Can we talk about why DAs disrespect you and turn mean when they disassociate? Before coming back months later to reengage and not talk about what happened at all/no accountability?
Comment from : Elly Elise