What are the boundaries of helping family with money?

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Title	:	What are the boundaries of helping family with money?
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I would never reward bad behavior
Comment from : Andrew Sullivan

Just so you know, her admitting it to the police is not going to help her out
Comment from : John Minogue

You can’t just throw money at people who will not change There’s not enough money on the planet to help them and you’re not helping them You’re participating in their insanity You’re not helping them get dignity You’re not helping them have a futurebrbrThanks 🙌
Comment from : Honey Sensei

Perhaps she doesn’t know how to change
Comment from : Renay Hayles

😢
Comment from : Renay Hayles

assuming the worsebrchinese incestuous cursebrtim brechts pennies nurse
Comment from : Jeffrey Richardson

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Comment from : Jeffrey Richardson

Biggest problem is her mother expects someone to bail her out
Comment from : Lynne Bucher

The first question to ask would be "Where is her money going? What exactly caused her to take money?"
Comment from : Beatrix Altenberg

Gambling addiction? Tough situation when it’s mom
Comment from : Donald Richey

Tell them you are broke too Boom fixed your problem!
Comment from : Steven Jarrell

Jennifer, this was ALL DUE TO YOUR MOTHERS' Decisions YOU OWE HER NOTHING Tell her, Oh well
Comment from : Patty Jones

Perhaps the local welfare agency will pay her rent and there might be a food bank and there may be jobs available
Comment from : South Texas Border Adventures

Why do so many Boomer parents want to control/use their adult children?!? What is their problem?
Comment from : twiston43

Mom needs to spend some time in the pokey, IMO
Comment from : OurBelovedBungo

So she's not ashamed of embezzling, but she seems to be embarrassed about getting caught
Comment from : John Meakin

My family is far from perfect, but these stories are crazy I'm glad to have at least a decent family Thank goodness
Comment from : Enlightened Idiot

honestly i really dont understand that mindset how can you feel entitled to take a family member's money? even with my parents growing up, i never expected money from them makes me feel sick
Comment from : Ella Park

Help a friend out before you help any family member cause a family member will burn you deeper longer and harder than any friend will
Comment from : David Foulk

Don't do it They for the streets
Comment from : MrBusItDown

I pray that my relatives to have the same determination as i am to make some good money
Comment from : Noah Park

$1500 is probably a drop in the bucket! Further investigation would find out that there is more missing funds!
Comment from : Brightstarlivesteam

They scare you with suicide attempts if you dont give money What to do? My Anxiety is too high
Comment from : Celebrity Fam

Poor girl I feel so bad to hear this
Comment from : Danny

Not a good idea to hurt your own finances to aid a thiefbrbrDon't let a known thief move inbrbrHer mom created her own problemsbrShe'd not going to need to pay rent soon She'd going to get a stay in the grey bar hotel
Comment from : F Huber

As the world turns wit Mr Ramsey 😢😞
Comment from : Evalina M

Never a good idea to ever give money to someone If they have rent or car payments due and you want to help, pay the landlord or the finance company directly My bet is that you will learn their were asking for more than they owe They wanted you to pay rent plus 300 for their pocket They will ask why you don’t trust them
Comment from : Tom

41@ friends!I am a student of veterinary medical UniversityI ask you for financial assistance to continue my studies at the @t wife died and I was left with two childrenI live on the territory not controlled by UkraineI want to raise funds for myself and my children to move abroad,make the children comfortable,and continue studying and working part-time in a veterinary clinic to treat animalsIf each of you throws Menna one dollar it will be more than enough, because together we are a force!brWebmoneyEuro:E647756663508,Dollar:Z111469348965PayPal:solodovnik14@@t
Comment from : сумасшедший кабан

Don’t do it EVER You do it once, they’ll expect it in perpetuity “You did it before, why not nooooow?!”
Comment from : hothotheat3000

Yeah, I came here looking for advice helping my mom and I realize my situation is pretty tame
Comment from : Brad Coleman

Bet its not the first time she's stolen
Comment from : steve41557

Tell friends and family asking for money this, "Sorry to hear that If I had the money I would give it to you, I just don't have it"
Comment from : AV8TOR

These lazy money monglers makes me sick
Comment from : JV

Good griefapparently helping her mom didn't help before It won't now
Comment from : C M

I need help money plsssssbrNameali bin abdullah amodibrAcount no32270133807brIfsc noSBIN0003449brSbi bank
Comment from : Ali Amodi

Sadly, my wife and I are not on the same page with money I have quit enabling her spending problem Her disability check(not handicapped) which is $700 is gone within 7 days We average 3-4 packages a week showing up to the house but her car is always needing gas and she can never help pay for anything Financial misbehavior comes in all shapes and sizes
Comment from : AUSTIN SELLECK

She admitted it to the police, so she lost the court case before it began
Comment from : BrandonRides

The one word that comes to mind with many of these calls is: Enabling You are harming someone when you simply offer a bail out, especially if there is no indication the person is willing to modify their negative behaviors
Comment from : Jack Jones

Fear is always a great motivator
Comment from : bob marker

At least her mother raised a wonderful daughter, so she must have done something right
Comment from : Hadiyah Al Kauthar

2:13 "She admitted it to the police So hopefully, that will help her somehow"brbrHow does handing the prosecutor a slam dunk case help her out? I would think a plea deal is off the table at this point as she's already practically plead guiltybrbrI don't understand why people think that talking to the police is helpful when they are under investigation for a crimebrbr"Anything you say can be used against you in a court of law"brbrNowhere in your Miranda rights does it say that speaking to the police will HELP youbrbrIt doesn't say "anything you say can be used against you Or maybe help you? You'd better just keep talking and we'll figure that part out later I'm sure it will work out"
Comment from : Austin Eyler

:55 seconds voice clearly changes, liedtotally knew about the crime
Comment from : Stephen Crutchfield

Bad parents probably came from bad parents and it usually takes strength of character to break the cycle and do better for future generations The mom didn’t have the strength of character to identify unhealthy behaviour and change but the daughter has so she should be sympathetic to her mom as a human but she doesn’t owe her anything cause she didn’t ask to be born
Comment from : Nadine Ramnauth

Moms an dad love the I took care of u feed gave you a home
Comment from : j borrego

Judge people is hard because human kind fails
Comment from : Elizabeth Stadler

If they don't feel like they should ever have to pay you back, do bnot/b lend them moneybrThat's how I like to think about it I'd only ever help someone that acknowledges the money I gave them was never theirs
Comment from : Masked Foxx

Let my father in law borrow money br I think he figures cause there retired and broke from spending money on dumb stuff and he thinks I make a good salary brThey don’t have to pay me brbackbr Took advice from Bronx tale brThey longer borrow me about money
Comment from : Vic A

My boyfriend's brother in law has been leeching him off every week he asks for 500$ and cause of it my boyfriend stays in alot of stress and the thing is he never pays him back he feels entitled to his income There's a point of helping somebody but this is just too much And my boyfriend says if i don't pay him i feel like he's gonna treat my sister wrong and it's just too much headache Idk any solution
Comment from : Vuteko Aalu

I highly agree with Dave on this Help her to help herself, if she's willing, but she must perform, not just play victimhood!
Comment from : 1redrubberball

so take care of your parents
Comment from : Tommy

My family keeps asking me for money I’m getting sick of being their bank
Comment from : Nathan McDaniel

She can go to welfare and apply for Public Assistance she'll get food stamps, insurance, bus tokens ,JOB COUNSELING br Mom needs to at least show the courts she's got a job BEFORE CONVICTED
Comment from : Lindalee Law

Wife married a mama's boy brWomen if Mommy is ever present
Comment from : Lindalee Law

I am going through this with 2 friends and I honestly feel like I can’t breathe One I haven’t spoken to in 2 years and out of no where she calls to see how I’m doing and a week later I emptied out half of my emergency fund to help her and the 3 kids The other one I haven’t seen or spoken to in a year and a bit and she always needs $40 for gas and food They both make more money than I do and I have to figure out how to release them both from my life without being meanbrbrAny suggestions?🙄
Comment from : Allis Possible

I’m also wondering if there is more to the story such as a gambling addiction
Comment from : Lori Leavitt

Go, to, JAIL!!
Comment from : The Peter Dislike Show

Dave what are your thoughts of talking to your family members about the dangers of loaning each money long before the opportunity ever arises so that the question doesn't even come up in the first place?
Comment from : The Peter Dislike Show

Yeah, my mother hasn’t been arrested but, I see bad financial behavior and I’m willing to let ember lose her home, if need be because I think that the way she sees it, I wouldn’t let her lose her home because I was to inherit it But, the reality is that she’s decided to make me wait, while she lets my sister move into the other home my sister is to inherit, after my sister has mostly been absent for decades The logistics are that I don’t expect my mother to move to convenience me, but I know what she’s doing I would have “0” problem telling her to move in with my sister or to get an apartment She’s been destroying the home from the inside out for years now anyway
Comment from : Private Private

Caller, please learn how to speak without all the conversation fillers, ie "you know", "so ", and "actually"
Comment from : Izzysmom

Her mother needs to go to rehab! She has too many crackhead behaviors This is passed money problem
Comment from : M C

Saying "you know" repeatedly does not convey what you are trying to say or ask Get your facts and thoughts together before you call
Comment from : Izzysmom

Maybe she should have stole enough to get her out of her trouble Oh well
Comment from : Kenya

Very few ppl can give birth to ubrI'm with ramsey, she needs to changebrBut the daughter sure has had difficult times too I'd stick with my mother thru thick and thin♡♡♡♡
Comment from : Eat Sushi Responsibly

I have a family member who is a chronic alcoholic and now due to his violent domestic marriage He’s in jail He and his wife are violent now he’s in jail with a bail of $300000 cash in order to get out He claims that he has $100000 cash and $2500 in credit card spending We live in different states He has asked me for the money and if he goes to his obligations of courts the money will be returned The only time I’m contacted is only in crisis I’m not sure who spoke of me possibly having money but it seems like this is a big “quick fix” bail out if I help him The bail also goes over some daily spending limits of min Trying to figure this hour has caused me great anxiety and heart palpitations (literally) He’s not been supportive of me in my great times of need I would hate fo him to loose his job but I also don’t want to me the “fix it” person as these situations/crisis I was supportive before (excluding bail fees) I really don’t have it to spare but knowing I can get it back is promising I just don’t real trust his alcoholism will be a factor He was already out of jail to complete his alcohol testing I’m so worried cause I don’t want to be selfish but I also do want to be the problem solver when his situations are preventable
Comment from : AngieMusicArt

Drug addiction?
Comment from : Mattwesley

Whatever you doDON'T let your unemployed family move in with you!
Comment from : J T

I would tell your mother to go to the welfare dept They are obligated to help her find a jobThe day she goes they will give her cash aid, medical insur and food stamps If she can't get a job when she goes on interviews, she still keeps cash aid, medical, and food stamps until she gets a job Also tell them that you are only loaning her the money because if you say you gave it to her, they may not give her all the benefits right away
Comment from : Karen Kramer

Good news is if she goes to jail she doesn't have to worry about food or shelter
Comment from : Richard Sanchez

Mom need to apply at Wal-Mart or McDonald
Comment from : RonnieWB

This is why families are best separated by distance and only visits on holidays etc
Comment from : Chris Johnson

I don't understand I hear you many times how you encourage people to give money away for charity without any conditions but yet, you advice this lady to help her mom but you advice her also to set some conditions, etc Sounds like what you are doing is not consistent to your advocacy Good luck!
Comment from : Burdagol

How are you Dave?
Comment from : Alyssa Thomas

Dave as you know crime does not pay and tomorrow is another day!
Comment from : Jeffrey Richardson

My parents is not perfect like they hate saving and never have any expenses bookeeping, but they always keep promises to pay their debtbrIn Indonesia there are a sentences " when your relatives borrow your money, they won't ever giving your money back" sadly for 90 people in here this is so true
Comment from : simsgazytech

why give a criminal embezzler money? don't enable - only help when she's willing to change
Comment from : steve41557

Wakanda don't want your mom
Comment from : Camilo

My daughter uses my grandkids to make me feel guilty to give her money
Comment from : QueenBeeForLife

i paid for my daughters school university and first home on condition she doesnt send me to an old folks home
Comment from : monstersince

Tough love
Comment from : Jeffrey Richardson

Throw the book at her
Comment from : Jeffrey Richardson

Family tend to take advantage of you and 8 out of 10 times they WILL NOT PAY YOU BACK Why? Bc they don't feel like they have toand the longer you let it go without asking the money back to more and more they see it as a "gift" I gave my dad $1,200 with the intent of getting it back (he's a doctor) and after 2 years of not saying anything I finally started asking for it back brbrIt took another year of finally asking for it back and finally 3 solid months of aggressive asking to FINALLY have him start paying some of it back I got the last of it back after another round of yelling Needless to say I will not be loaning him any money ever again
Comment from : Gambit2483

Mother in law gets money from them How pathetic Role reversal So much for being the example and demonstrating values etc to her son and daughter in law She will just keep sucking more from them, not appreciate it and feel entitled to it Wow Feel for the family
Comment from : J Ringler

"There's not enough money in the planet to help her" Exactly She has to change her behavior and attitude first
Comment from : Lora Rooks

Wow It really makes me appreciate my parents
Comment from : maremacd

My girlfriends sister is a crackhead, and has been asking her family for money forever and she is 38 years old still asking mom and dad and sisters for money she will never stop and we have just cut her off completely had to
Comment from : TWDxKILL3R

Well, if she gets convicted and goes to prison, she won't have to worry about her rent or bills for that matter lol
Comment from : Nateshas Ambience

I have a cousin who asked me for money 3 times already and she has 2 huge houses and just ask me for 300 dollars to fix her car, problem is I already said yes and I don't want to give her that money because she doesn't like to pay back
Comment from : ed secce