Why Gifted Kids Are Actually Special Needs

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Comment from : HealthyGamerGG

Or you never need to study until year 11 or 12no chance at allbrI later did year 11 mathematics in 4 weeks when l needed it for a course Got 98funny how much a good study programme helps
Comment from : Robin Kelly

I so wish I could have watched this in 6th, 7th, or at least 8th grade
Comment from : Anna

When my teachers told me to "apply myself", I would ask them what that meant and how to actually, practically do it I never once got a direct answer brbrI suspect that people who learned to "apply themselves"/study in the gradual way that most people do, didn't notice learning it They consequently see "applying yourself" as an innate ability everybody just naturally has by a certain age, and so can't comprehend that some people (who never got the opportunity to learn) can't do it
Comment from : Lellyma Pomms Cymbillnos

You can be or do anything you want, no suggestions or guidance, just anything you want
Comment from : Scott Snyder

No shame in my wasted potential, I’ve created a gifted boy that I can help the way I wasn’t 😊
Comment from : DannyJenn S

Being double gifted is fun 😅 AuADHD adds extra spice I have two choices: either burnout to the point of losing skills or just be alone to be able to self-regulate and do stuff
Comment from : BakuDeku Shorts

Amazing video brother Will defs buy off you soon as your front end content is commendable Great stuff bro I'm getting it together to scale my business needed this video
Comment from : James White

Not helping guy how about you excavatethe gruesome and sadistic tendency of human groups
Comment from : VIEW2

Another note is people seem to believe being in special education and performing well in high level courses in school are mutually exclusive, which is not true
Comment from : Nateman1000

I got by easily through most of my life with little to no effort It has taken considerable discipline and introspection to try to figure out how I was able to do things, and what I need now to continue to be able to do this better The brute force thinking and digging has been brutal but rewarding The gifted often constantly reinvent the wheel on the fly, and it mostly works, but eventually you can't
Comment from : Evan Connor

I want to share how I always looked at gifted people and the problems they have And the best way I can imagine is by comparing the potencial of a person with a staircasebrbrThe first thing a gifted person has compared to a normal one is a higher end point Simple as that And because most parents and many teachers are able to recognize this fact, at least on a subconscious level, they get extremely happy and want the child to reach this higher end point Which in itself is, in my oppinion, a good thing They simply recognize how great this child could become if he reaches the top of his stairs, that he could become a person immortalized in history and benefiting/helping many people with what he hasbrbrThe second thing a gifted person has compared to a normal one is slightly smaller steps on his staircase So while others need to lift their leg completely to go up a step, gifted people don't need to lift their leg completely So they don't need to use all of their energy to go up one stepbrbrAnd the third thing a gifted person has compared to a normal one is that they have a +3 towards their starting step So compared to a person with everything exactly the same and the gifts as the only difference, a gifted person starts 3 steps ahead of the normal personbrbrSo while all those 3 gifts are realy great and in theory can lead to a person who becomes a great leader or pioneer in something, in reality those 3 gifts all have things about them missunderstood And that causes gifted people to be at best getting their gifts slightly damaged so they hardly stand out at the end, to at worst getting their gifts completely destroyed to the point that they are more a mass of issues than something that could help/inspire even one personbrbrThere are 2 big problems that cause all those bad things The first one is that a giftes person has only 1 big gift instead of 3 smaller ones And the second one is that his big gift is a higher staircase with smaller steps, without recognizing the third gift evenbrThe first gift is very easily recognized and by most people mostly understood But the problem is that most people come to a assumption in this part that leads to problems later down the line The majority of people have a standard Staircase and know how hard it is to climb as well how long it takes to climb But because they only fully understand the standard staircase, they at first assume that it takes the same amount of time to climb the gifted person staircase as it takes to climb the standard one With the biggest problem why this basic assumption wasn't thrown away being the second and third gift in fact Because what they give causes comfirmation early on towards this assumtpion being correct when in fact it is wrongbrbrThe second gift is recognized and partially understood by most people Gifted People do in fact have it easier in going up a step But the magnitude is understood wrongly It only makes it very slightly easier to go up one step, at most making it look somewhat easy to go up one step But even in the most extreme I think it doesn't make it easy to skip a step without a great amount of effort And this is the biggest problem from this gift The preasure to take two steps at once is often times so high that gifted people are forced to actualy take two And just like a real staircase, taking two steps at once takes more energy than taking them once at a time Meaning in order to stay above the not gifted people and fullfill the expectations they burn throught their energy until they run out and are unable to take any step anymorebrbrAnd lastly the third gift that is not even realy recognized But sadly is also the one that hardens the assumption the most Most people look at the signs of a gifted people when they start to climb their stairs And if a person seemingly just skips the first few steps because they are so small for them than it shows greatly how right the assumption is, not understanding that the initial skips are not the result of having greatly lower steps but instead is caused by them already standing at a higher point So skipping during any teachings the first few steps is only natural because they don't need to learn how to climb those steps Because they are already past those stepsbrbrSo the misunderstanding of the gifts and the wrong assumption cause great harm that can take effect in a few different waysbrTwo examples:brbr1 A child gets preasured to always stay above the others around him So he uses his third gift to show he is already above them And the second gift to easily stay above them But because of the preasure they eventually look too much at the staircases around them and how far the other childrend climbed already to properly look at their own steps and so they trip They fall down, or as sayed in this video they hit a wall So they need to focus on standing up again and after that they look around and see that all the others around them have gone up a step, while they stayed on the same step during that time So they panic and start to go up faster while again looking at the others Which leads to more falls, more incidents that lead to a closure of the gap between the gifted child and the other around him Which leads to more preasure put on the child, either from himself, the parents/teachers or him and parents/teachersbrA bad circle that eventualy leads to the child realizing that he is now falling behind, despite his great gifts Which eventualy leads towards the child giving up and without proper help most likely never coming close to the hight all the normal children around him reach Dispite the fact that his highest possible point is far above thembrbr2 A child gets preassured to always stay above the majority So unlike Child 1 they don't look at the staircases around them Instead they have a marker on their staircase that goes up over time and shows them where the majority is, in turn showing them the line they need to stay above at all times So at first they climb because of the great preasure coming from others which slowly morphes into self preasure to always stay above the line But because they always climb they lose always energy, not recharging once because that was never an option And additionaly because they always look at their own staircase they themself don't know where the marked step acutaly is It was at the beginning told to them by the parents, teachers or other people surrounding them And because it was always in view distance, after they morphed over to self preasure they don't get the step highlighted by others anymore So they highlight the step themself Which leads them to always mark a step net far behind them, which forces them to push higher to increase the distance, which pulles the marked step right behind them, which forces them to push again, repeat and repeat and repeatbrAgain a bad circle that leads them to burn thorugh their energy and force them so much that the intial energy reserve gets depleted way faster than the little passiv regeneration that everyone has until they don't have anything left and burn out And while others know when to stop and recharge to make sure their supply never runs out, they don't know how to do that So with a great disctance ahead do they get slowed down to the point that they can only take a step after the little passiv regeneration has provided them with enough energy to climb one step Which lead them to almost stop any more climbing at best around the halfway point, at worst not even after a 1/10 of the way up With again them most likely at best hitting a highpoint around the same hight as all the others and at worst not getting even close
Comment from : Daniel Diederichs

Yes, at some point I fully realized that success only comes from hard work That allowed me to give up on success, because I don't like to work hard It was a relief
Comment from : good buddy

as gifted kid,(edit im 16 comn i cant say 'kid'💀)I can confrime that I have social anxiety but the good thing im learning how to get out from that
Comment from : M T

35:48 this is the realest issue Having people expect things from you without them respecting your own wish They want you to fill their expectation but they never cared for your own expectation on yourself (if not only the superficial stuff)
Comment from : Claustrophobic Pasta

Gifted kids with dumb parents
Comment from : We Deserve A Better City

Yeah, speaking of failure… I always got A’s up until my sophomore year without any kind of effort It wasn't until junior year that I reached the wall and was unable to keep up I quickly lost interest in all aspects of education and started skipping school One day before I was planning on going back I went on a ride to clear my head and get a refresher I got in an accident, after which I was depressed and ended up dropping out of school As much as I would like to say I’ve gotten through that, it’s been 34 years and I'm still not doing anything Letting life pass me by while reading light novels every day 🙃
Comment from : Dameon Jacoby

It took a lot of willpower to make the decision to build a shack when I could’ve built a mansion
Comment from : Bunsenn

Oh thanks My daughter really needs this advice at this point
Comment from : 주비

If kids don’t have good study habits, isn’t that partly their parent’s fault?
Comment from : George Elliott

I loved being gifted and as a gifted kid it was more of a burden and now I'm depressed, anxiety, perfectionist, ocd, and self worth issues and I used to love math, science, history, any subject
Comment from : FAIRYILOVEYOU

As a gifted kids we always have adhd, autism, disabilities, ot other stuff and a lot of us get burnt out(me) and have depresion, anxiety, etc
Comment from : FAIRYILOVEYOU

Gifted adult here, finally fully embracing my Life and StrugglesbrThank you for your wisdom, friend!
Comment from : Jay Tee

I am a “gifted kid” This is so true 😭
Comment from : Noartiy

I've never related to a video so muchbrI think a big part of the problem is that highschools are set up to make everyone succeed So struggling kids get all the attention so they pass and the school scores well, while gifted kids get very little attention because "they will pass anyway" while that massively disadvantages them later on
Comment from : Guido Haverkort

Gifted children get bored in school They aren’t challenged Developing programs tailored for gifted kids would be wonderful! Having a challenge creates the need to learn essential skills such as studying I had a smart 7th grade math teacher When I finished a self learning packet about learning decimals in 3 classes when 14 classes had been set aside for this project, she was surprised/ panicked/ horrified What to do with me? She asked me to help another student who was still on page 1 This was even more fun than zooming through the 50 pages myself! I loved teaching one on one! I taught my friend decimals I told our teacher that he learned decimals, but he couldn’t add or subtract Unfortunately, he was transferred to a “basics” class I would have enjoyed figuring out how to show him to add and subtract in a method that he got A child’s ability to learn can “freeze” during personal trauma Hence, gaps in their skills By 11th grade, we were both in the honors trigonometry class 😊
Comment from : Mary Racine

We are i would know
Comment from : Cheese trio Ashelian

I am a late stage autistic adult, I was on the GATE program, gifted and talented education and spent my early life treated as a savant in art and success in my 20's Now as a unemployed 39yr old homeless I realized my art skills came from being neurodivergent
Comment from : Bill Murey

1:15 wait that's not normal?? I had 2 pages of math honework, 2 pages of reading and 15 pages of memorizing to do in second grade (on a day)(the memorizing was once a month)
Comment from : Micó Kertész

You’re describing me perfectly, especially comparing myself to others
Comment from : imEZmazing

I was seen as a gifted kid in my childhood, I would be in hospital for like 1 week and I would come back and do (possibly) the best in the classbrbrbrbrI am now diagnosed with ASD & go to specialist school for autistic children
Comment from : HoneyMoths

Not all gifted kids are special needs Especially kids gifted in the arts and music We are highly emotionally intelligent and are able to connect with others quite easily I have a high IQ and school was easy I have a music brain I’m a gifted writer and poet I find most gifted kids who are special needs tend to be gifted in the math science areas and have low emotional intelligence
Comment from : Eleanore

Just wanted to say that burned out is different than a burnout A burnout is stoner its usually a dirogrotive term they call someone that might cut class and is always stoned In high school there was a group of guys who called them self burnouts and that's what they were known for
Comment from : Geyes 96

I didn't hit my wall 'til college🙃 I'm 23 and have done nothing it was such a blow Burn out gifted kid with a narcissistic mother, adhd, and autism It's a hell hole atm Working on breathing and trying to focus on "building a shack" first The shame is rough especially when I feel like I need to prove my family wrong (I'm the scapegoat)
Comment from : Katie Anderson

Im a gifted kid and just because im gifted i have harder classes "advanced classes", im in 8th grade but im basically learning 9th grade I get good grades and everything but it is so fucking stressful because i dont understand most things quickly and i need to break it down but my math teacher keeps telling us "you're advanced you should know this!" Or most of my teachers make things harder for us just because were "gifted"
Comment from : Morelpaw

31:40 is such a good analogy for all of this I wish the school system knew about this!
Comment from : Tyler DaSilva

"The most amazing things that can happen to a human being will happen to you if you just lower your expectations,” - Phil Dunphy
Comment from : Dread Pitt

i really struggled in a school environment but love learning, i averaged c-b's and was always told that i was actually very smart and i had the potential for a's if i just applied myself more i got diagnosed with ASD/ADHD when i was 18 i wasn't a "gifted kid" but i was always told i could be the education system failed me and so many like me
Comment from : Knot_SJ

Why do i find the suggestion beneficial, when i was like opposite of gifted kid in my childhood 😢
Comment from : Rajpal Bhatia

Holy shit - this is my life
Comment from : Objectivity is our friend

Ha Sucks to suck Thats what they get for getting 120 on the tests after they sucked off the principal
Comment from : 44theshadow

For me, it wasn't so much that I was expected to build a mansion, if we can use the same analogy here brbrIt was that I was expected to be able to do EVERYTHING without asking for help I couldn't ask my parents for help with school because neither of them retained enough from school to help in the first place On top of that, I was told from a young age that they never intended to have kids My "sister" was 11 years older than me, and my parents didn't even get married until I was 2 brbrMy father would give my sister every bit of spare change he had, but I had to have all "A"s and "B"s He showed my sister how to take apart and rebuild an engine, but I better stay out of his workspace or I would get yelled at for trying to help My mother just griped about everything, so I didn't like talking to her either That's the condensed versionbrbrI never had the "ego", I just wanted to be loved and accepted by someone I'm 31 years old and married with a 3 year old I see how smart my son is and it scares me It scares me that he will grow up and realize that his father did nothing with his life and be ashamed I can't stop myself from crying right now because I don't want him to be like me so badly that I sometimes think the only good thing I can do for him is to teach him how to not be anything like mebrbrSorry for the short essay, but as someone who has lived with anxiety, paranoia, and depression since elementary school, this struck a chord Please love AND listen to your children My son teaches me things without me even realizing it and he's 3
Comment from : N3rf Dr4gon

Im glad i was retarded as a kid cause im straight chillen now
Comment from : Wendigaro

Bro… Do you know me? I mean this is 💯 about my life for sure I hit my wall in 8-9 grade I graduated with a 21 Took me 10 years to get my Associates degree from community college It’s taken me a further 5years to get my Bachelors degree
Comment from : guy fox

this made me feel better
Comment from : baeyuh

I would say that I was a gifted kid when I was young, I didn't study that much and I just understood stuff a bit faster than others Even in preparation for the high school final exam, I only did 23 hours, sometimes even less time, of extra personal study per day, I still managed to get a relatively good score, one that my parents aren't happy about, but whatever (Although I will say that my high school grades are pretty shit, I only did good in subjects related to maths)brAs for shame, I've given up on expectations because my self esteem was destroyed by my dad and it never formed againbrHe keep saying that I'm a normal person with no talents yet also expects so much from me, gets angry because of a crappy grade, and just me not able to get shit done He says that I don't have goals in life and I'm just wasting my life away, and I don't know how to studybrYeah but the thing is, no one ever taught me where to find a goal nor how to study, things feel fun and boring at the same time, it sucks
Comment from : FalseWordz

I was a "gifted child" I ended up being an underachieving burnout that has autism and didn't get the resources or guidance I needed to succeed, only coming to terms with my reality in my late 20s as I'm learning about myself
Comment from : Nicholas Williams

I probably have ADHD I never really had to study for anything other than math for longer than 10 minutes I was always praised for how smart i ambrbrYet i feel like a complete moron everytime somebody asks me a question or asks me to do something My grades dropped a lot when I started uni I constantly ask myself if I'm good enough Is my english still good? Did i get worse at it? Will I loose all of my skills?brbrI'm worried I won't succeed in my career of choice or I will loathe it, and something that i'd find enjoyable would pay really poorly brbrI really enjoyed my job at McDonald's, but if I stayed there I'd be viewed, both by myself and other people, as a failiure And I'd be poor on top of thatbrbrI'm an anxiety riddled mess with quite low self esteem I know i need therapy and possibly medication or I'll completely fall apart, but i keep putting off actually finding a doctor and getting the diagnostic test done
Comment from : gerdo strzał

What we need is to not be stuck in classes with normies It's mind numbing and makes us feel horrible
Comment from : OJMay

Gifted kids need to be taught that university is by no means the only journey to venture on in order to succeed in their goals Even the goals that many of us had weren’t really our own It certainly wasn’t born out of self awareness or self acceptance I also think the way we educate children is silly The Prussian system wasn’t meant for the healthy development of children, rather it was to prepare the next generation of workers I find we are stifled in our creativity, practice and critical thinking This is where innovation lives
Comment from : Rose Waters

Every video I watch on this channel ends up with me crying while realizing once again how much my parents, school, and society have failed to recognize and meet my needs
Comment from : Lucas Lopez

I was extremely lucky not really needing to study, even in University 39 GPA and the only thing I studied was the rote memorization in the Anatomy and Physiology part of my Physiology Degree
Comment from : Eric Baxter

Yup, hes talking about me Except high school was still easy enough and extremely boring So I studied a little bit and got into the best college in my country Man, that held my life back 10 years at least! And I ended up dropping out, so no mansion, no shack, not even a couchbrbrI'm 34 now, just found your videos and everything started to make sense I think it is changing my life, finally Thank you very much sir
Comment from : Marcelo Mazocco

thank you so so so so so much, I am in highschool and in middleschool I was always able to get A's first try with no study and now I am in advanced classes and doing really bad, thank you so much for this info, you may have saved the future me
Comment from : HoshiWinter

my solution for this was easy and simplebrhomework is a waste of timebri had a class that assigned more homework than there was in the semester what a tremendous waste of timebrid say that in general public schools are a practice in wasting time
Comment from : Zenith

hey can you please stop describing my life
Comment from : Pengine

that meme is me :) in fact the first 3 minutes sounds like me too i could really tell a story here
Comment from : Mr Robinson

never got a grade lower than 90 before grade 11, when i realized i needed to study in order to do well but i couldnt bring myself to do so i barely passed and fell into a depression for all of grade 12 and another year after im now in college because some university decided to give me a chance, i got lucky and it hurts
Comment from : Anxinite

I was a gifted kid, and I'm currently on my fourth year of uni I just watched this video for the first time, and I was actually surprised of how many what-to-do-if-you're-a-gifted-kid steps I've actually done, without even realizing it I just finished my homework and felt really smart after doing so, probably because I've sort of accepted how stupid I ambrbrI'm kinda grateful that I live in no regrets, that a lot of things that happened to me is the consequences of what I've done So when I failed on a subject, I didn't blame the teacher for not explaining the subject clearly enough, or for making the tests too hard; I said to myself that it was because I didn't do enough efforts to actually pass that subject, that it was the consequence of myself not actually trying to study and understand the subjectbrbrI'm also grateful that my parents put me in a school where they gave me homeworks after homeworks after homeworks, assignments after assignments after assignments, so that they kinda forced me to properly study and do my own researches, read the books and ask my friends to verify that my answers are right, instead of purely relied on my raw intelligencebrIn the process, I also realized that my answers or way of thinking were not always right, that I could do some mistakes; so when my friend asked me to verify their answers, and theirs are different than mine, I always compared both answers, looked for the difference, and tried to trace it back to see where our answers started to differ, and decided on whose answer were wrong and why, instead of straight up saying that their answers were wrong and that they should follow the way I did
Comment from : T Dustin P

That metaphor at 28:15 was amazing
Comment from : SlyM

Honestly, this is so true for me You have summed up my experience in a nutshell I started out in primary school not needing to do any study at all, and my grades were great (Not perfect or anything, but easily enough to get by) In year 4, there were 2 possible teachers I could have gone with, one which gave lots of homework and taught the kids study habits, and the other which didn't assign any homework at all A lot of my friends got the first teacher and said they got lots of homework, and I felt happy that I got the teacher which didn't assign anything Now, I'm in year 10 and (like you said) my grades weren't good enough to get into one of the higher-level subject areas (maths methods instead of what you said being english lit) My parents were not very impressed, and my teacher said that I had more potential, and I could do better Right now, I'm really feeling that wall you were talking about I'm trying to improve my study habits, but I'm really struggling because I haven't done anything like this before and haven't learnt how to study properly Your video is really helpful, and I'd love to see more like this in the future I hope I build up my mansion and get through this all right 🤞
Comment from : BubkisLord

I pulled through primary school, high school and university on "raw intellect" I am failing at life :DbrbrStudied maths so there was no need for memorization
Comment from : monaami555

“Caro m'è 'l sonno, e più l'esser di sasso, mentre che 'l danno e la vergogna dura; non veder, non sentir m'è gran ventura; però non mi destar, deh, parla basso” Michelangelo Buonarroti
Comment from : ethanol

I was a gifted kid and still am I've always received compliments about my grades and diplomas for good behavior and grades I never needed to study Elementary school passed by and as soon seventh grade hit I started to low my grades I got my first 76 grade It was the first time I got a grade below 80 80 was terrible for me as a gifted kid My friends always called me selfish and dramatic for crying for an 80 percent while they were perfectly fine with 50 My parents were always proud of me I was their smart, flawless little girl I never missed a class I never got late for class I never got to the principals office I never said a curse word I never did anything bad or wrong And here I am, struggling at ninth grade, hiding everything, and I mean everything from my parents because I'm afraid of their reaction I'm 14 and never got out of house alone Not even to go meet a friend or go to the grocery store and my country isn't THAT dangerous My friends know me SO much better than my own mum and dad When my friends ask me if I wanna go out with them I don't just ask my parents I need to know everything about the event before asking them Who's going? Where? When? Are their parents going? What are you going to do? All of that needs to be planned on my head before asking them My parents are really protective and I'm pretty sure it's because I'm a gifted kid Maybe if I didn't have all A's they weren't this protective I have to hide everything on my phone, curse words, LGBT things related, even text messages The thought my parents seeing my phone haunts me They'll discover the real me They'll discover the me they never imagined existed I live with this every single day and it's destroying me slowly I hate having to lie to them because they really trust me but I have to because they'll never accept me as I really am I have to lie to them about having a girlfriend but I hate to because they really believe in me when I say that I'm not dating a girl I can't be myself I have to create two different personalities for when I'm with my family and friends I don't know what I should do I think the best is being honest with them and tell them everything but I don't have the courage to do that and I don't think I will ever have
Comment from : • Bee • :)

When your raw intelligence fails you, you start to doubt that intellect Maybe my 'giftedness' was just a lie to cajole me into trying, I didn't know
Comment from : K H

Wow This is me I was VERY smart Reading fluidly at age 3 Straight A's until my senior year of high school when I took Chemistry I still managed brbrOnce i got into college TOTAL DISASTER! Internally, it was just like he describes I couldn't settle for less than becoming a lawyer but in reality, i needed to shoot for just getting an AA degree first I dropped out after one year of college brbr15 years went by before I finally got my AA brbrHere I am at age 40 , unemployed, low self esteem feeling like my mind is being wasted I AM smart Objectively so But what good is it doing me?
Comment from : C McKay

I think schools and parents look at “gifted kids” as less work Schools think, “We don’t have to dedicate as much attention to helping the smart kids, just bump up the material by a year so they stay busy” And parents think, “I don’t have to help with schoolwork or worry about them getting into any trouble” And I don’t think they do this out of malice or laziness, I think they think of it as a relief with the other responsibilities they have And it’s a systemic idea so they don’t see that it’s the cause of all these problems down the line
Comment from : Huniebean

So nailed it Especially the 7th /8th grade falling off a cliff Now add a neglectful, narcissistic mother that can't be bothered to get involved or help in any way yet takes any failures as an intentional attack on her It took alot of adolescent acting out, getting in trouble, becoming a young single parent of 2 and some therapy before I remembered that I was curious by nature and loved to learn BTW stop bashing Community Colleges That's where I found myself again and started the journey to become a the woman I am today HIGHLY GIFTED HONORS STUDENT from 1st grade on
Comment from : angelique rider-mitchell

People that are perceived as gifted and perceive themselves as gifted probably aren't the ones who are actually gifted The kids who are considered weird, anti-social, withdrawn, introverted, awkward, and/or quiet are often the ones who are actually gifted This YouTuber is of average intelligence, and not "gifted" as he likes to describe himself However , I do believe he's moderately intelligent The truly gifted ones have a difficult time communicating with normal people and expressing their thoughts in ways the average person can understand
Comment from : JoshuaBlades88

Another important thing in my opinion is that, when we get congratulations for being smart, it focuses on what we are instead of what we dobrInstead of saying "good job, you worked hard on this" we hear "good job, that was easy for you"brIt does not matter how long we worked on this, 10 minutes or 10 hours, what matters is we are smart - what matters is that it was easybrBecause let's be honest, that's what "smart" means it this context: Maths, or English, or Biology, and preferably all of them, come easily to youbrbrAnd in my personal experience, what it does is make us think that needed to work on something is a bad thing We are smart! Things are supposed to come easy to us!brAnd so, not only do we never learn the discipline to work, but we are also taught to devaluate workbrBecause we are taught that the important part is not that we did the work, it's that we are smart, which is to say that the work was easy for usbrAnd so, needing to work, work being hard for us, we perceive it as a failure on our partbrbrAnd at this point, it doesn't even matter, to us, if we can manage to get ourselves to work and get the thing donebrIt was hard It took work So it was a failurebrDid we finish it in time? Did we get a good grade?brThere is a level on which it doesn't matter to us, because we had to work for it, and so it's a fail no matter the end resultbrbrI know it was particularly true for me because I was a fairly awkward kid, who got along better with adults than kids my agebrAnd that means that for me, "smart" was my main good qualitybrI was not funny or personable, I was not hard-working, I was not reliable, I was smartbrAnd so the second I hit that wall, everything came crashing done I felt like I had lost the one good thing about myself
Comment from : Ellana

There is two type of gifted kid 1ignorant gifted kid or semi gifted kid and 2 Gifted kid, what's the difference, the first one is the one he talk about in the video, but the other is gifted kid who realize that what he talk about and they didn't get these problem anddon't become overconfidant about themselves
Comment from : Filoue25

Not only do video games match our pace; they tend to match our work vs reward expectation
Comment from : Seth Skoda

I went from an assumed English as a second language speaker in extra time bc of my race to, a “Gifted child” all AP and honor classes to them realizing it’s ADHD and Dyslexia🥲👍🏼
Comment from : Mm Mmmm

“He’s got so much potential, if only he’d apply himself”brbrPlease stop narrating my school days 😂
Comment from : XCURExGhostx

I was a gifted kid, somehow I've managed uni very well, but a couple years ago I tried to get in this physics institute from my country that is famous for just letting in really gifted people Everyone around me thought I would do fantastic in the exam Turns out the pandemic hit me hard, and I just didn't pass Oh boy the crash was terrible, my self esteem plummeted, and I only would thing that I wasn't enough brI lowered my expectations, but the peoplo hasn't We'll see if I can go through grad school or not
Comment from : Milagros Raimondo

Im an 8th grader, i barely study (never studied, even) but still did alright (top of my class), so now i just procrastinate everything and do it last minute because i know i work better under pressure How can i deal with this before its too late?
Comment from : phoenix jones